My name is Corrie and I live in a little village near the bright lights of Manchester.
I’ve just joined the 30 club, recently bought a house with my wonderful partner and rescued a loveable dog called Daisy…..so basically life is all good!
I am happiest when I’m:
Jet setting! – My FT job allows me to travel the world so I count myself extremely lucky.
Baking! – My surname is Baker so it’s in my genes!
On the beach! – Life is sweet when there is sand between my toes and a sea breeze in my hair.
Most importantly I don’t take life too seriously and enjoy a good G&T whenever I can 🙂
I recently joined a Facebook page that is dedicated to the lovely little village I live in with my partner and pooch Daisy! The page is predominantly useful for updates on all things villagy such as recommendations for local gardeners, dates of the next farmers market, recent planning permission for a new pub…you know the score…
I was browsing through my Facebook feed yesterday when I came across a post from the village page that really made me think about how we sometimes let negativity spiral out of control.
The post contained a picture of a car parked on double yellow lines on a side street in the centre of the village. Along with the image was a comment from a local resident angrily protesting about how stupid and inconsiderate people are and what a disgrace the village is coming to. I continued to read the 13 or so other comments from residents which contained remarks such as “There are not enough PCSO’s dealing with these serious issues so I have called the police”, “I have called the council and was put on hold for 15 minutes, they said they were going to send someone to issue a ticket”, “It is really inconvenient to have to walk in the road when these stupid people park illegally”.
I am not usually one for commenting on or getting involved in debates on the internet (seriously who has the time?) but after 3 French Martini’s yesterday evening (hiccup!) I felt compelled to try and change the tone of the rant into a positive one!
I am a strong believer in negativity breeding negativity and effecting our lives in many ways, often without us realising it. Before you know it you are yelling at your partner for the tiniest thing, then when you take a step back and think to yourself “where the heck did that come from!”, your negativity has stemmed from something as tiny as a car parked on double yellows. If you don’t control it, negativity can suck the life out of your world.
My comment to my fellow villagers was therefore as follows:
“Parking on double yellow lines is one of life’s little niggles that no matter how much it annoys you, someone, somewhere is doing it right now. Given that it is an act that a majority of us have done in the past and will probably do again at some point in our lives, shouldn’t we all ask ourselves is it really worth wasting our time getting irritated by something we cannot change? In the grand scheme of things when there is enough negativity already in the world, is it really worth spreading this frustration onto our families, friends, colleagues? Maybe we should consider looking at this post in a different light?…….
How much time did it take you today to take this photo and post it on Facebook?
How much time has everyone taken reading it and posting a comment?
How much time have you spent talking about it to friends and family?
How much money did you spend ringing the police and the council?
Has your time and money been well spent?
I dare everyone to add up the amount of time they have spent on this post and use the same time tomorrow to create something positive;
Call an elderly relative
Play with your children for 10 minutes longer
Give your neighbour a lift somewhere
Buy your wife some flowers for the same price you spent on hold to the council.
Our time is precious so is it worth wasting it on breeding negativity?
I wasn’t overly bothered if my comment infuriated anyone, I was only interested in trying to turn a negative situation into a more positive one and if my thoughts had rubbed off on just one person it was time well spent.
For me – time spent reading and commenting on the post = 20 minutes. Today I will therefore be using this 20 minutes be giving my colleague a lift home so she doesn’t have to get a tram, two trains and bus home.
Disclaimer : Opinions raised in this Open Mic series are entirely the words, thoughts & opinions of the guest author & are not necessarily the opinion of Lizzie Somerset’s Blog. LS XO